Motherhood is hard. Yet, sometimes, moms make life harder without intentionally doing so! Having been a mom myself for only a few years now, I have begun to notice this.
As a brand-new mom, you simply lack the experience needed to be efficient and skilled in your motherhood tasks. And on top of it, the mental load of it all will weigh you down. (I talk about the cycle of the mundane and the overwhelm in motherhood here.)
Now, after giving birth to and raising three children (with a fourth on the way), I have come to notice where I can focus on eliminating or changing things from my life to make it easier! There are simply things that make life easier. Yet when we become lazy or don’t focus on efficiency, we make life harder on ourselves.
Here are some ways moms make life harder and what you can do to make it easier…
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Having Perfectionist Tendencies
One way moms make life harder is by having unrealistic expectations in motherhood. For many, this is a perfectionist tendency. We want a clean house that is always tidy, or we want our kids to always look well-dressed and put together. And we want to appear to everyone else that we have it all together. (Instead, be vulnerable and ask for help!)
But, you quickly learn that you have to let some things go! There is no perfectionism in motherhood. Even if money isn’t a limit, children will be children. Things will get broken, destroyed, and lost. We will never have it all together, and there is no perfect balance!
Life throws us new challenges each day, and to make life easier on yourself, it’s about shifting your mindset. Shift from the perfectionist tendencies, and a heart that compares and covets what we see online or with others. Instead, find contentment in motherhood each day!
This is something I have to personally work at each day. To practically apply this to your daily life as a mom, say 5 things you are grateful for each day (it’s part of my husband and I’s evening routine). Also, eliminate your social media, either temporarily or permanently! See if you notice the dramatic impact that I have noticed in my own life.
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Forgetting To Do What Is Best For Your Family
This also has to do with contentment and comparison. As moms, we make life harder by trying to mold our families into ideals or visions of what we see in other families around us. We put the kids in sports because that’s what everyone else is doing. Or we spend money on a certain vacation because we’ve seen others do it, too. Oftentimes, we make decisions in life like this without even realizing it.
But, instead of just doing what others are doing, it is so important to do what works best for your family! Moms make life harder by not saying no at times. We overcommit or overschedule, or fail to ask our husbands for wisdom before making a decision. Instead, pray for wisdom before making any family commitments.
Give yourself the freedom to say no to extra things on the calendar, and remember that saying no becomes easier over time. Moms, you can protect your own time as well for your well-being! What could you say no to today (maybe it’s a yes, but a different yes) that would help your family thrive despite what others are doing?
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Not Having Consistent Routines
Lastly, one way moms make life harder for themselves is by not staying consistent in routines their family needs. When we have standards, expectations, and rhythms for our family members to follow each day, it keeps everything running smoothly.
The kids know what to expect, they know what task to do next, and they know the habits your family has created for them. Yes, this does take upfront work of training your children and reminding them. But once the foundation is established, children ask fewer questions, you don’t have to micromanage, and they don’t put up a fight!
We can be consistent with our actions, even down to all the simple tasks that every day requires. Sit down and write out all your family routines, even post them up for everyone to see. What is the morning routine? What is the evening routine? And what do we allow and don’t allow at certain times of day?
But another key to this is making sure the family schedule stays simple. We all need unstructured free time, especially kids for their development. With a simple and consistent routine, your whole family will feel safer and secure, and the house will run more smoothly!
Yes, moms make life harder at times, but they also learn how to run a household efficiently and smoothly! Which tip will you be implementing first to help you make life easier? Let me know in the comments below!
Kelsey at GoodPointGrandma
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