It was after I was sick that I realized there are some mindset shifts for moms that I need to share. When you’re a mom, and you’re sick, you still have to be a mom!
I’m currently a mom of two under two, and I have been for a while now as they are only 13 months apart. My children still need help with almost everything, from changing them to feeding them to teaching them, well, everything!
When I came down with a fever and realized I couldn’t lay in bed all day but had to still do all my daily motherhood tasks, I became overwhelmed.
Motherhood is not easy. It takes a toll on you, whether you are sick or not. And while you will always have some really good moments and some really tough moments as a mother no matter what, there are still mindset shifts you can focus on to make each of those tough moments better!
When I started really controlling my thoughts and being aware of what was entering and exiting my mind, my mothering changed. It changed over time, slowly, as I worked on the process of thinking in a new way.
I’m certainly not perfect and still struggle with these mindset shifts for moms at times, but I hope they can be a help and encouragement to you as well!
Let’s check them out…
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Just Do It Now
After lunch, rinse the dishes now, and don’t just set them in the sink till the end of the day. (I’m very guilty of this!) When you see a dusty ledge, a cobweb in the corner, or a handprint of mud on the door, clean it now.
When you remember that you need to call to set up an appointment, stop what you are doing and just do it now!
I know that isn’t always possible, but often it is. By shifting your mindset from “I’m so bad at remembering to clean” or “Ugh the dishes are so dirty and stacked so high” or even “I wish I had scheduled that appointment last week” to “I’ll do it right now” you start having an easier and simpler life.
And if you can’t do it exactly at that moment, at least write it down so you don’t forget or set a reminder in your phone so that you do it sooner.
These mindset shifts for moms take time to adjust to but if you think something, try just acting on that thought immediately, and eventually, a new habit will form!
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Time Over Everything
Time passes and can never be regained or happen again. When we waste time on social media or other frivolous things, we lose that time with our children.
I have to constantly remind myself that even though it may be a hard day, these children will never be this young or this size again. They are going to grow up right before my eyes and I want to soak it in every single day.
As they say, the days are long, but the years are short!
So savor the moments, set the phone down, put the effort into a family dinner, soak up the cuddles, play with them and just simply spend time alone with your children without any other distractions!
It can be hard and go against our very nature. As moms, we have a running to-do list in the back of our heads, and we can feel like we are wasting time. But even more regularly now I am realizing the importance of getting down on their level and being with them, not just for their well-being but actually for mine!
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Keeper Of The Home = Great Responsibility
I truly believe that being a mom is the hardest job in the world. But, I had no idea how much responsibility would come with the role before I was pregnant.
A mother not only nurtures, encourages, and teaches her children but also keeps the home in so many various ways. Depending on how you split basic household tasks with your husband you may be managing the finances, buying and storing groceries, taking care of pets, operating a side hustle, cleaning the house, homeschooling your children, and so much more.
It is certainly a full-time job being a wife and a mother. But as a Christian, my biggest responsibility is raising my children to know and love the Lord and setting a godly example for them each day.
One way I can set that godly example is by doing all my motherhood tasks with a joyful spirit and a happy heart!
If our children see us complaining or doing tasks begrudgingly, or even being lazy, we fail to be the keepers of the home as we are instructed in Titus 2:4-5. Instead of feeling anxious or overwhelmed by our responsibility as moms, we should work hard to be extremely joyful and productive throughout our day!
Remind yourself, you GET to do this work! What a privilege that God entrusted you to the task at hand!
This is one of the mindset shifts for moms that will not just produce a cleaner home, but also a happier family! Plus, you will feel amazing too, take it from me.
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Take Care Of Yourself
With two under two, I have experienced a few seasons of life where I do not meet my own needs. For example, I will feed my own children but then not stop to take the time to feed myself. Sometimes I would go through the whole day realizing I hadn’t even stopped to drink water yet had been giving water to my children almost every hour.
Do you relate? A mother is selfless, and we honestly just forget to put our own needs first!
But when I forget to take care of myself everyone ultimately suffers. My mood swings, my nursing session is weak, I snap at my husband, etc. We cannot serve others well if we do not first take the time to do simple hygiene and maintenance on ourselves.
Recently I have implemented several boundaries in my life to help me stay on track and take care of myself. You can read about them here and here.
Start simple and commit to getting dressed every single day, or only making home-cooked meals, or drinking a whole glass of water before you sit down. Whatever you need to fix, start by setting a boundary in your life, and then your mindset will start to shift naturally.
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God First, Husband Second, Kids Third
And the most important of the mindset shifts for moms are keeping their priorities in check. God should always be first in your life. Set aside time for Him each day.
Next, your husband should come before your children. If your marriage crumbles so does everything else! Then your children come last. This can be hard to balance so constantly be looking at your priorities and evaluating them.
If you keep repeating these mindset shifts I know your life will improve! Let me know in the comments below which of these mindset shifts for moms you will be focusing on first.
Kelsey at GoodPointGrandma
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