101 Thoughtful Things Wives Can Do To Serve Their Husbands Better

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I’m certainly not a perfect wife and have hurt my husband with my words and actions at times. So, as a reminder to myself, and hopefully to you as well, I’ve made a list of things wives can do to serve their husbands better!

As selfish human beings, we desire people to serve us. However, God calls us to be humble and selfless every day. That involves being servant-hearted towards our family members and looking to their needs before our own. “and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Mark 10:44-45)

When we look for ways to serve others it brings love, joy, and fulfillment in Christ. Often it’s the little things that add up to make a big difference. If you are struggling in your marriage or have experienced pain from your husband, I would encourage you to first look at yourself. What small things can you do each day to honor and serve him?

This list of things wives can do to serve their husbands better is not complete. I could probably think of 100 more things! As you go through your day be intentional about showing your husband respect, meeting his needs, and maintaining a humble heart. Look for more opportunities beyond this list.

The small actions, words of encouragement, and the right heart posture are what make the biggest difference to your husband and your marriage! God brought you both together, and with hard work, God will change your heart as you serve Him by serving your husband! We’ve enjoyed these books, and this devotional as we continue to grow in our marriage.

Let’s check out the things wives can do to serve their husbands better…

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101 Thoughtful Things Wives Can Do To Serve Their Husbands Better

Write him love letters
Offer to bake him a special treat
Don’t talk poorly about him to others
Hug him
Give him a compliment
Tell him “You are so strong!”
Keep the master bedroom tidy
Do his laundry for him
Make his favorite dish
Send a flirty text
Take a bubble bath together
Don’t tell him accusatory things like “You never listen to me!”
Don’t be alone with another man
Pray together
Hold hands in front of the kids
Encourage him to hang out with other men who would encourage him
Communicate your expectations when it comes to family members
Kiss every morning before getting up
Kiss every night before going to sleep
Say “I love you” at the end of every phone call
Tell him that you feel safe with him
Praise him when he does something well
Sit next to each other at gatherings or events
Smile at him
Don’t interrupt him when he is talking
Ask him for his advice
Look at old photos and videos together
Offer to give him a massage
Talk to him in a pleasant tone
Submit to his decisions but do provide your input kindly
Value his opinions
Don’t talk down to him
If he makes a request, honor it
Choose to not laugh at him when he messes up
Write him a thank you note
Play “your song” randomly to spark a connection
Listen without giving unsolicited advice
If a child interrupts while you are talking together, train the child to wait patiently
Compliment him if he looks good
Share with him 25 qualities you adore in him
Let him know that you appreciate how hard he works
Look for the positive attributes in him and pray for the negative ones
When annoyed, choose to show grace
Be kind when bringing up hard subjects
Get away without the children
Let him review the budget monthly
Read the Bible together
Make eye contact with him and avoid distractions while listening
Ask him questions often
Be emotionally connected by turning to him with your fears and thoughts
Never say “You’re lazy!”
Ask him how you can bring him more pleasure in bed
Allow him to have some time alone
Wear a special scent reserved just for intimate time with him
Surprise him with a gift
Offer to do something for him that will make his day easier
Say “I’m so proud of you!”
Be quick to apologize
Be quick to forgive
Never act out of anger towards him
Laugh at his jokes, even the dad jokes
Watch your wedding video together
Listen to a podcast together and then talk about it
Rent a hotel room and hire a babysitter for time away together
Say “You’re my best friend!”
During the baby’s nap or after they fall asleep, reach out to your husband in some way
Never share your marriage problems with another man (besides your pastor if it comes to that)
Pray for him every day
Great him at the door
Send him encouraging texts
Compliment him in front of others
Tell the children how much you love and appreciate him
Be patient with him
Don’t make a decision without bringing it to him first
Get off social media and turn off the TV more often
Play board games together
When he shares something with you, thank him for doing so
Keep the house clean
Watch the sunset together
Shower together
Send a romantic email
Don’t make him the brunt of your jokes
Never say “I told you so”
Don’t compare him to other men
Ask his opinion on your clothes
If you are upset with your finances, don’t complain about his ability to provide
Light a candle and be ready for him in bed
Wink at him
Write down a Bible verse for him to meditate on
Have the kids draw pictures for him
Make the holidays special for him by doing extra things without complaining
Give him a coupon book with tasks you can complete for him
Declutter the house
Go on a walk together
Say “I’ve been thinking about you all day!”
Be goofy with him
Don’t be silent in lovemaking
Don’t say “You’re impossible”
Be honest but loving when you communicate hurt
Say “I’m so glad I married you!”
Focus on the little things each day, they are what truly make the difference!

Which of these things wives can do to serve their husbands better will you be trying first? I’d love to know in the comments below!

Kelsey at GoodPointGrandma

Hey there, I'm Kelsey! I'm so glad you are here. I'm a 20-something helping you live your most fulfilling life. I hope you'll join me in this old-fashioned & simple lifestyle!