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I saved my first kiss for my wedding day, thanks to God’s goodness! Check it all out here:
Why We Waited To Kiss and Have Sex Till Marriage
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I have never been kissed. I am saving my first kiss till my wedding day.
I decided this when I was in my ninth-grade Bible class when my teacher offered us the challenge, and it was then that I made a vow to the Lord to live differently in this way.
And I need to address these thoughts in your head first because I know what you’re thinking.
You’re either thinking…
(a) Wow, you must think you’re so spiritual. You are no better than any of us who have kissed someone before.
To which I respond, you are exactly right. I, in no way, place myself at a higher level of “Christian” or consider myself better than anyone else. This was a personal decision I made. Everyone makes their own decisions.
(b) You must think to kiss before marriage is a sin.
To which I say, no I don’t. It is not a sin to kiss before you are married, the Bible never says that. I don’t look down on anyone that does kiss before marriage.
(c) Loser, that is so dumb. You are totally missing out!
I firmly believe, like most things in life, the joy of waiting for something is far greater than the need for immediate gratification.
And believe me, this has never been an easy decision. I’ve considered not holding to it several times.
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So why? Why do this? Why put yourself through that torture of waiting?
Our society does not value values. We don’t hold standards. We don’t commit to anything anymore it seems.
What was the last thing you gave completely to the Lord and said, “This is dedicated to you, Lord. I will or will not ‘blank’ because I am honoring you with it.”
Here’s why you should consider saving your first kiss till your wedding day or rededicate to the Lord saving your next kiss from here on out:
First, you are giving God control of your love life. You are putting the pen in His hands.
One of my favorite Christian authors of all time is Leslie Ludy, and her husband, Eric Ludy. They wrote a fantastic book called When God Writes Your Love Story.
Handing over the pen to your love story is probably one of the most difficult things we can do. We see others with boyfriends, girlfriends, or significant others and all we feel is the need to chase after someone. To try to grab more and more.
Guess what, you can’t fill that empty feeling in your heart with a human. Only God can satisfy that hole.
You must have a love so deep for God, a life so grounded in Him that He is your complete fulfillment.
Give God the pen. Let Him write the perfect love story. This means complete surrender to Him. That means no more chasing love. It means trusting Him to fulfill when He sees as perfectly beautiful.
Saving your first kiss helps you give God the pen.
Second, God created each man for one woman and each woman for one man. How I have always pictured it is how beautiful, wholesome, and just enchanting it is to say the only man you have ever kissed is your husband or wife.
How beautiful to save yourselves for each other. It is God’s design. I know that when we follow God’s design He blesses it.
Plus, why are we always trying to go as far from the truth as we can without “crossing any lines.”?
How many times have you heard, “We only kissed! It’s not like we did anything bad!”
Kissing has become a defense. A way to get close enough to what you want without feeling guilty or sinful.
I’m sorry but nowhere in the Bible does it say, crawl up slowly and closely to temptation, but do not partake in it.” Nope. It says FLEE temptation.
By saving your first kiss, not only is it so wholesome and beautiful, but it is also honoring God and obeying His commands.
It is escaping regret.
Third, purity and boundaries. You knew this was coming right?
There are lots of purity talks out there. I heard one every other week for basically my whole life going to chapel at a Christian school. Don’t worry, I’m not going to give you another.
I’ve been able to sum it up this way. God designed us and created us to glorify Him, in every area of our lives. Relationships are a huge area where our society has drifted farther and farther away from God’s intent.
God intended love to be pure; to be sacred. That means honoring Him with our actions throughout dating, courting, engagement, and marriage.
I believe I can honor God in a glorifying way by saving kissing for after marriage while also keeping myself in line. I know how easy it can be to fall into temptation.
This is a boundary to help protect me from other mistakes, and other instances that may cause me to break my purity. We all must put boundaries up in relationships. We are not strong enough to withstand temptation on our own.
Boundaries lead to purity.
But the most important part of purity is that it comes from the heart.
I can’t motivate you to live a life pursuing purity. It needs to be your decision. Your own values.
So, I have a question for you. Do you value values?
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